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A Million and One Things

Posted on Friday, September 27th, 2019

Dave!Facebook has a features called "Memories" which allows you to revisit posts for the day of years past. Most of the time, it's kinda cool to look back and see what was happening last year... three years ago... five years ago... and so on. Other times? Not so much.

A year ago today I was burying my mother.

It's weird... very weird... to think back to that day.

She had died three months prior, but it took a while for her marker to be made and shipped from the Veteran's Affairs office. I ultimately decided to go with the free marker they provide to veterans because the local funeral home had gone out of business and I just didn't want to shop for another one. Also? I really liked the simplicity of it all...

Mom's Marker

Placing that marker was symbolic of so many things.

For the previous three months I had been in a constant state of stress and anxiety. Closing out accounts. Paying off bills. Writing thank you notes. Sending out death certificates. Disposing of possessions. — It's a million and one things and it seems like it will never, ever end.

Until the marker is set, you write an obituary, and it does.

Except it really doesn't, of course.

It was never a sprint, it was always a marathon. And as I sit here one year later, I'm really glad I didn't know this back then or I probably would have gone insane.

Though it's early. I still might.

In the meanwhile, I have cats to keep my mind off things...

Jenny, an orange cat, sitting in front of the television looking at me as Samuel L. Jackson lifts up Goose, an orange cat, in the movie Captain Marvel.

A job for which they are exceptionally well-suited.

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Comments

  1. Sharon says:

    I’m sorry. Losing a parent is very hard, and it sounds like you and your mother were exceptionally close.

  2. Michelle Phillips says:

    I’m glad you got your cats. They seem like awesome cats. I’m at 2.5 years since my husband died. And in a way it does get better. It still hurts but you go longer periods of time without it hitting you like a ton of bricks. It’s like you start to get breaks from your grief and they get longer and longer. It never completely goes away. But it becomes more manageable. And it’s not like you wouldn’t want to still grieve for them. They deserve to be missed and loved. They made an impact and shouldn’t be forgotten. So hang in there. It will get better.

  3. David says:

    Time helps, we buried my parents two years ago, and I still have flashes of intense feelings. In the grocery store last weekend, someone had left a cooler door open, and I closed it, all the while hearing my mother scream, “CLOSE THAT REFRIGERATOR!” That is how they haunt us.

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